Thursday, February 26, 2009

Today's Decisions

Today's decisions are tomorrow's realities.

Monday, February 23, 2009

When Your Teenager Drinks

Dear Dr. Eugenia,
My teenage son has a friend for several years now. They go to the same school and they do quite a few things together. lately I see the boy looking not as happy as he used to be. He seems to be pre-occupied and it is clear he avoids me whenever he comes to our house. A few times I smelled alcohol as I approached him and I was alarmed. I had to talk to my son who, after some hesitations, confirmed that his friend drinks. In fact he told me that he is worried about him because since he got a girlfriend and they drink together, he misses school and his grades are going down. My son reassures me that his friend is still nice to him and he never offers him alcohol, but I am worried. I don't want my son to cut his friend off, but I am afraid he might start drinking. Are my fears realistic? What can I do?
Panicked Mom

Dear Panicked Mom,
You are right to be concerned about your son. It is easy for a teenager to get to try alcohol when a friend already uses it. Curiosity and peer pressures are very powerful things for someone in his teens. Talk to your son about protecting himself from the risk of alcohol by being aware that he is vulnerable in being with a friend who drinks. If there is a school psychologist or counselor available, your son can encourage his friend to go and talk to him or her, and the boy's parents need to know their son drinks. If you know them well, you can tell them your concerns without criticism.
I hope you and your son do some talking and listening about personal values, beliefs and how he sees himself in his peer group. Can he learn to say "NO" to friends who drink or do things that he does not feel are right for him? Popularity has its price, and your son has to choose what is best for him.
Give him encouragement and support to do it.
Dr. Eugenia Andrews

Friday, February 20, 2009

What Do you Expect In Your Life Now?

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about Expectations.
I noticed that whenever I hope for good things to happen, I have to remind myself , to leave any doubting thoughts out of my mind. Instead, I concentrate on my desire and focus on what I want to happen. What happens, is I receive what I've asked for. Perhaps not in that moment, but the answer comes...It arrives in it's own time when I'm truly ready to receive it.
Expectation is a powerful attracting force, because it "attracts", it draws things to you.
No more sabotaging my positive expectations, by thinking about all the things that could go wrong. I now focus on all the good things and I have faith and unwaivering belief that my thoughts will become reality.
If you've been there, I'm sure you know what I mean.

Bob Proctor, one of the Teachers of the Secret, says. "Desire connects you with the thing desired and expectation draws it into your life". What would happen if You, "allow" yourself the joy to expect all the wonderful things you want? Can you imagine if you just simply try to do this as you think of the job you want, a relationship with a partner or being the parent you want.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Tips for Marriage Success

  1. Love
  2. Communication
  3. Friendship
  4. Trust
  5. Honesty
  6. Respect


Dear Dr. Andrews ,

I had been laid off from my job and my New Year's resolution, was to get into sales.
I've finally found a position, I think is right for me and could be good at. My income depends on commissions and personal effort is rewarded by the company.
I know I have not yet begun to reach my true potential. I want to be more successful at my job. One of my friends tells me that hypnosis helped him visualize his dream and he came to fulfill it. Can hypnosis help me?

We want to congratulate you on your decision to seek the work you've wanted this new year. Resolutions, focus on change and all change starts from within.
While in the hypnotic state, you are led by the hypnotherapist through visualization .
This is a process, of creating pictures in your mind, of yourself enjoying success.
When you visualize, you generate Powerful Thoughts and Feelings and Attract Positive Energy in your life such as having more customers and closings of sales.
Hypnosis also increases your Motivation, Self-confidence, Focus and empowers you to take action, toward achieving your goals.
It removes the obstacles from your subconscious, so you have a positive "Can do" attitude, and be a winner.
It helps let go of the fear of not getting what you want and you find it easy to visualize and create the expectation for your success.
You gain clarity, your thoughts stay positive and you feel confidence, belief and trust that Prosperity is your birthright .
We can help you get where you want by fulfilling your potential and achieving the Prosperity and Success you desire .
Once you make the DECISION, we help you make it a REALITY.
Dr. Eugenia Andrews

Thursday, February 12, 2009


It's February again, and Valentine's Day, is just around the corner.
Everywhere you turn you see red roses, pink candies , sentimental cards and heart shaped boxes with those sinfully delicious chocolates that are so hard to resist! (alas, I should know)...Oh, yes! Love is in the air!...All of us want to have this special feeling, if just for one day.
As I talk with friends, I can hear the anticipation , the expectations, the stress they feel, over what gift to buy, or what they might get from someone else and I don't even want to think about those people who forget to buy a gift and they suddenly "fall from grace " after such a ...mishap.
So, here is another perspective, a different look at Love.
It is my gift to you, for simply being YOU.
It doesn't matter if I know you or not, what truly matters is that you are here, on this planet and there is this invincible connection like a delicate thread that joins each one of us with the other as we create this community that's called humanity.
It may seem strange , even funny in some way, but I believe that Valentine's Day, is a day for everyone to feel the love they want, no matter if they are a couple or not.
When was the last time, that YOU, acknowledged yourself , for who you truly are? The authentic, incredible, unique human being who is going through this journey we call Life?
The time has come to take this step.
Choose a quiet space and be aware of your feet, touching the floor. This is the part of feeling grounded , having that sense of security and belonging.
Breath deep and allow your inner wisdom to come up and be heard, loud and clear, away from the busy chatter of the world.
Look into the mirror and observe slowly your face , your body, your physical self.
Leave the critical thoughts behind. They have no place in this moment now. This is you and there is nobody else on earth exactly like you.
Say out loud "You are perfect the way you are". Yes, you heard me right. No bargaining or doubting yourself.
"You are perfect and flawless, just the way you are".
Repeat this validation of yourself, until you know for sure that you believe it and you "own" that feeling in your heart.
Decide NOW, to live more in the moment, and fully appreciate you.
Stop thinking the "should have's"of yesterday and the "must do's" of tomorrow.
Slow down and be mindful of your thoughts.
Turn off the overthinking, it steals away your energy and leaves you angry and exhausted.
Be still and feel the quietness of your inner being without any distractions or thoughts.
Become aware of being Present .
There is just You and the Universe, God is all around you.
Feel the Gratitude for being alive .
Connect with the love you receive from the Universe, from God.
There is nobody in the world who will love you more than you.
Embrace this Love.
Feel it in your whole being and own it.
May you always feel Loved.
May your journey be one of wisdom and clarity.
May you hold yourself gently, as you dance lightly with your life!

No one is perfect...

"No one is perfect, until you fall in love with them"

Friday, February 6, 2009

A Choice: Letting Go of Guilt

Do you know a woman who does not feel guilty about something she said, felt or did? If she exists, I'm sure she lives on another planet. Guilt eats at us and saps us of our energy and inner peace. It steals our valuable time and peace of mind.
Today I invite you to release the guilt you are holding onto about something you said, or didn't say, or about what you did or failed to do. Think for a moment. What does the guilt add to your life? By feeling guilty, whom do you make happy and whom do you make happy and whom do you make sad? This unnecessary guilt you hold inside, slows down the process of attracting good things in your life. It might be love, friendship, forgiveness, generosity, success, abundance. Carrying your guilt around, it feels like a sack of stones, and it doesn't get any lighter.
Of course it never helps the people you think you have wronged.
Have you noticed that when you feel guilty, you tend to sabotage your success in anything you do.
From the depth of my heart, not only as a Life Coach, but also as a woman myself, I am asking you to check inside yourself. Have you been punishing yourself long enough? Are you tired yet of the constant self sabotage?
WHAT has to happen, for you to let go of this guilt.
Make a decision TODAY to let go of it. You will feel free!
Dr. Eugenia